Okay, so I could really use some input. It doesn't have to be on here, but some kind of input would be great. I know that most of those who read my blogs are Latter-day Saints which is my basis for this.
So, I'm a Latter-day Saint Young Single Adult (LDS YSA); I'm even qualified as a Mid-Single now since I'm 25 (26 in 3 months). Living in Nacogdoches, this is really hard in the dating part of life. I want to date; I want to get to know others. Yet, I've pretty much gone on a date with every single guy here who's LDS. Now I'm to the point that I'm looking at those who not have the same faith as I (even though that doesn't always mean much) and it scares me.
What scares me, you ask? The fact that I'll fall in love with someone one day who doesn't have the same faith as myself, and I maybe never have the temple marriage I want. Yes, that is looking into the future a lot, but at the same time, you date who you marry. So do I risk having those future things happening to at least date and have those experiences, or do I not date and just sit at home? I've never dated a lot, and so it's not really something I know. Do I "flirt to convert" or just hope a strong member comes along that will treat me how I should be treated?
Why does it seem that the guys that treat me the best are non-members? No, they may not have all the same standards as I do being LDS, but I can promise you that they care more about me and what's happening in my life than most members that I've dated. I can be myself more with them, and maybe that seems like I'm not holding all the standards I should, but I do.
What are your thoughts? As I am right now, I'm almost to the point that I'm just going to be career focused completely, and if I'm still single by 35, giving up on having kids and having it all removed. I mean, I'm sure I'll change my mind on down the road or whatever, but right now, it almost feels impossible to ever find a member who I could date and maybe have a future with. The ones that I like (but no one ever knows) either move away or I leave before we ever have a chance to date, even though we both know that there is interest.
I know some of what I want, but I also know that I want to share this life with someone.
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This is the hard part of life. Do you remember what we talked about last night at YSA??? Turn your life over to Lord. This is between you and him. Have you read your patrichtical blessing lately?? What does it tell you to do in there? Once you turn yourself over to the Lord and I mean totally turn yourself over like we were talking then I know in my heart that the Lord will lead you to where you need to be!! Where is your faith?!?!?! I know it is hard to have sometimes but please please try!!
Also - remember President Hinckley was 29 when he got married - so you don't have any reason to worry right now. Just stop worrying about it and thinking about and find ways to serve others - that is when it all seems to fall into place - when you stop thinking about it...
I agree. To stop thinking about it, though when opportunities arise, do not set them aside, despite the package or what you may think. Service is the key. That's where you'll find the guys who like to serve others, that's how those guys will notice you, and that's how you'll most importantly, feel closest to the Savior. Remember that I love you. Remember that He knows best...and remember that Sister Oaks (current) is an amazing person and waited an amazing amount of time for an amazing man. ;) I don't think you have anything to worry about besides that wonderful future of yours and how you'll stop from laughing when you look back and read these posts.
--Much love, Emily G. =)
Remember what you said in your lesson Sunday about being "equally yoked". Do group things with nonmembers. You never know when you will be an instrument in the hands of the Lord in helping someone join the Church, but do not risk having serious relationships with those who do not have your same faith. The Savior knows your heart--put your faith and trust in Him. Do not be in a rush. The Lord knows the righteous desires of your heart.
Angela,
I can speak from experience~Tyson has always been a great husband & father but religion was never important to him or his family growing up so he didn't see the importance of it when we were first married. It wasn't that big of a deal to me at first, but when I started having kids I knew it would be a long hard road, but I had made my choice and had to deal with it the best I could.
I am very blessed that Tyson decided to join the Church and is now a worthy priesthood holder~I can't begin to tell you the ways his decision has blessed our family. But don't choice the hard path~things will be so much easier in the long run if you don't!
I promise you the Lord has a great plan for you and He will lead you to it. I know it's hard to be your age and have this weighing heavily on your mind! You'll be in my prayers!
I think the good advice has been covered. As long as you let the Spirit guide and settle for nothing less than temple marriage, the road ahead will winde accordingly. No need to make a blanket decision on if to date or not date non-memebers. Let the Lord take you by the hand on every friend you meet individually, and decide from there what action to take/not take.
You're life is happening to you now, so don't miss opportuntities to serve, grow and love others as you're waiting for the "next" phase.
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