I don't know if this is something he is going to ever want or how important it is going to be to him to work towards that. I would be okay just dating him, and not thinking about this; however, I've had a few people make mention that I should only be dating towards the Temple - of course not in those exact words. Also, when I was going through a desk drawer today, I found some old stuff from my one year of Seminary and from the two years of Young Womens. One pamplet that I found, titled "To the Young Women of the Church: A message by President Ezra Taft Benson of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" (1986) stated the following:
Date Faithful Young Men
"Remember, young women, the importance of proper dating. President Kimball gave some wise counsel on this subject:
"Clearly, right marriage begins with right dating.... Therefore, this warning comes with great emphasis. Do not take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless. A girl may say, 'Oh, I do not intend to marry this person. It is just a "fun" date.' But one cannot afford to take a chance on falling in love with someone who may never accept the gospel" (The Miracle of Forgiveness, pp. 241-242).
"Our Heavenly Father wants you to date young men who are faithful members of the Church, who will be worthy to take you to the temple and be married the Lord's way. There will be a new spirit in Zion when the young women will say to their boyfriends, 'If you cannot get a temple recommend, then I am not about to tie my life to you, even for mortality!' And the young returned missionary will say to his girlfriend, 'I am sorry, but as much as I love you, I will not marry out of the holy temple."
So... as I was typing this, this very choice young man just called me. He's making changes in his life, and no, I don't think they are because of me. I feel like I'm helping him see things and not putting him down or judging him for weaknesses and flaws. It's just amazing to see those changes though, and I hope they stick!!
Again, I am torn as I'm not completely sure which direction I should go. Maybe I should just continue to date and see what happens. Heck, I'm not ready for marriage. Once school starts, I won't really have much time to see him anyways so he may just leave because of that. Oh the joys of being busy!!
3 comments:
go with your heart, not your head. in the end the lord will make everything work out, the way it should, so do what makes you happy. and when you go back to school, if you really like him, TRUST me, you guys will make all the time in the world to see each other. Jason was on his last semester, which was his hardest, when we started dating. He was still at my house probably 4-5 nights a week and the other days I was at his house. we stayed up til 2 or 3 am if it was the only way we saw each other and it was the happiest time in my dating career. plus, marriage kinda sneaks up on you, I was SOOO not ready for marriage, it happens when you least expect it.
Angela--I was sitting with two of my daughters listening when President Benson said those exact words. The Spirit was so strong. Be very forth right with this young man and let him know that you will not settle for anything less than a temple marriage. I know you well enough to know that anything less would not bring full happiness to you. My favorite quote (just ask any of my kiddos): "If young people could look into the eternities and see the full value of a temple marriage, they would crawl across the continent on their hands and knees to obtain it."--Pres. Brigham Young Love you.
don't risk it---just look at my sister---& then go date my brother :) hope you don't mind me reading your blog
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